Los Gatos, known for its Range Rovers and boutiques, has become a staple for the Single Gal and her friends. Recently, I went to the 180 Lounge, and when I walked in, I was stunned. Was this actually the old Los Gatos Bar and Grill?  Where were those drunk guys from high school that I used to hide from? Instead, there was smoky glass, bamboo, lounge chairs, dim lighting, and a woman in a box.

OK, I am sorry!  I take it all back!  What did I mean when I said that downtown has cool places to go and no one to go there?  After the Sharks game on Saturday night, some friends and I decided to go out downtown for some drinks.  One friend said he wanted a place where we could sit down, talk and have a cocktail - not a place with loud music and shouting.  (I swear, he’s not 80).  So we decided to head to The Loft, a new, hip restaurant/bar on Second Street.  But as they say, getting there is half the adventure.  I have never seen more cars on Santa Clara Street in my life.  It was a parking lot. But the question that kept reverberating in my head was “Where are these people going?”

So I decided that instead of sitting around feeling sorry for myself,  maybe I should come up with ideas for San Jose to make it better.  It seems that it doesn’t matter if you are living in a married or single hell-of-your-own-making, we all generally want the same thing: a cool, hip city that gives us plenty to do and to be proud of. And let’s face it, just thinking about a cool idea would give me a leg up on most people at City Hall.

Ok, well, yes, dammit!  I am single.  I am SINGLE.  It’s bad enough that I have to answer the question of “how is your love life?”  500 times at family functions.  Or that I always give the same answer, “Non-existent, thank you.”  I don’t tell you this so you can feel sorry for me, but I tell you this because I hope that I can bring you a little bit closer to the sheer hell that is being a single gal in the city, in our city.